Signs she’s not right for you! In today’s video we’re going to be discussing 11 regrettable signs she’s not good for you.
Finding out early whether or not a woman is the one is important to a lot of people. We’re going to show you how to know someone isn’t right for you and the subtle signs you can look out for.
You suddenly start thinking am I supposed to be in this relationship? Is this the rest of my life right now? Is she the right woman for me?
By this point you have a life together, maybe you’re living in the same house, you know each other’s families and you might even have a pet together. It’s tough, because do you break it off and maybe lose the lady that is right for you. Or do you hold on, only to realize a few years later that you can’t go on any longer, having wasted all your time.
No one ever said that love was easy, and this is because it really isn’t. The hardest part can be asking yourself, is this the right woman for me?
Well, I hope to make that a little easier today. In today’s video I’m going to tell you the 11 early signs that you should be looking out for if you are wondering if a woman is right for you.
These signs could save you years of heartbreak and allow you to live your life with someone that will bring you so much happiness.
Early signs she is not the right woman for you
You have to censor yourself around them
It’s horrible when you can’t be yourself around someone, especially when that person is your partner. You are supposed to be able to be authentically yourself around them, and they are supposed to love you for it.
When you feel like you have to censor yourself around them, it can be difficult.
They don’t like it when you go to the gym, so you feel as though you can’t tell them about it or sometimes you have to lie about going. This is a huge red flag in a relationship.
The person you are with is supposed to love you and support you. They lift you up and want you to be the best possible version of yourself. They don’t want to change you, they want to help you achieve your goals.
If someone is trying to bring you down or change your personality then they are not the lady for you.
I would bring it up with them, but if you don’t notice them trying to change then pack your bags, you can do so much better.
You subconsciously know they are wrong for you
Have you ever experienced that nagging voice at the back of your head? It normally tells you things you already know repeatedly which can get very annoying.
The problem is, we try to ignore it and so it just gets louder and louder. Until we simply cannot ignore it any longer and must act. This often happens when someone is wrong for you.
Deep down you will know instantly if someone is the one you are supposed to be with forever. Sometimes though we are so swept up in the excitement of a new relationship we don’t hear it, until it is too late.
You can only avoid your subconscious for so long, so sit down and take a moment to think to yourself, is this woman right for me?
You’re not on the same page
You want two children, and she wants three. You want to live somewhere different to where she does, and although you are not bothered about getting married, she is.
It’s difficult being in a relationship because it does take a lot of compromise to be with someone. We can count changing what we want as compromise.
The truth is though with the important things, you can’t compromise. These are the things you want out of life, and you shouldn’t have to change that. There is someone out there that wants the exact same things as you, but you need to find them.
What can happen in relationships is you talk about which page you are on early on. If you have different views, you both think, that’s ok eventually we’ll sort it out. Then when the time comes to make these decisions nothing has changed. So, either one of you compromises or you break up.
It’s better to realize these things early instead of holding on and it all going wrong.
They are emotionally unavailable
If the woman you are with is emotionally not invested then she might not be the right lady for you.
We often become emotionally unavailable when we don’t like the person we are with in a romantic way. She won’t mean to be doing it, but if you recognize this pattern of behavior you should probably end the relationship.
We close off as soon as something does not seem right. This is what can happen when we are emotionally unavailable. It means she is more likely to hurt you, but also it’s not nice on her to keep her when she wants to be let go.
You just love being in a relationship
Some people love being single while others love being in a relationship. They love the safety and security a relationship offers them. Maybe as a child, you didn’t feel very loved by your family, so you are looking for that in a relationship. Or you just like having someone to do things with all the time. Either way, it’s not great to just be in a relationship for the sake of it.
If this is the case, you are probably not with the right woman as you will just take anyone that shows interest in you. It might seem harsh. But it is better for you to take some time to be by yourself and sort yourself out.
You will be a much better partner when you do get back into a relationship. It will mean that you end up with the right woman.
You are not bouncing back
It used to be easy to bounce back and move on from arguments, but now you can’t move past them. Either you or the woman you are with keeps bringing them back up or you find yourselves always arguing about the same things.
This is a huge red flag and an unhealthy way of being. If after talking everything through, you can’t move forward in a healthy way, then the relationship is not meant to be and it’s time to move on.
They need you to feel happy
It’s vital in any relationship that you make the other person feel happy. Of course, you both need to be. When it becomes toxic though is when they need you to be happy. That’s never healthy and it means they might not be the right lady for you.
She might talk about how you are the only person who makes her happy. Or maybe when you leave the house she is really sad and cries the whole time until you get back. When you do get back she begs you not to leave again because you are the only person that makes her happy.
This is not great behavior, and you don’t want someone relying on you for their happiness. They have to be able to make themselves happy.
Be careful when you leave them because they will be fragile, but if you do it in a nice way in the long run they will also be happier.
You don’t trust them
You can’t quite put your finger on it but you just don’t trust them. When you don’t trust someone you can often become controlling. You start asking them where they have been or checking their phone to see what they have been up to.
This is not normal and if you don’t trust someone, there is probably a reason why. It’s better to leave this situation early before you do something that you might regret.
You find everything they do annoying
Everyone has annoying habits, right. Although it’s normal to find some things annoying, when you start to find everything annoying, it becomes a problem. Maybe you find yourself rolling your eyes behind their backs when they say something you find cringe. Or you find it super annoying when they watch loud videos before bed.
Perhaps they used to do things you wanted to do but now it’s their way or the highway, which you find difficult. This will all lead to you getting more annoyed and will end in you bursting with anger.
You can avoid this by communicating with them. Ask them to stop some of their annoying habits but if you still find yourself getting really annoyed, it’s time to call it quits.
You want to swap partners
You have a couple who you are close friends with. You find yourself wondering what it would be like to date your friend’s lady instead of your own. After a few more dinners together, you really want to swap partners. He can have your lady and you can have yours.
This is a clear sign that you are not with the right lady. Newsflash the lady your friend is with is probably also not the right one, and definitely not worth risking your friendship over. This is when many men come close to cheating though which is not good.
It’s much better if you put an end to your relationship now, instead of also ruining someone else’s and ending your friendship.
You can’t picture your future with them
No matter how hard you try, you simply cannot imagine a future with them. Before bed you try to dream about your wedding or having children with them, but you can’t. They are not in the dream, and you start to wonder why.
Well, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it is probably because she is not the right lady for you.