Love has always been a puzzling topic, philosophers, artists, and writers have tried for centuries to understand love, but they’ve not always been successful.
Love is often all-consuming and full of emotion. It’s normally people like us that are left to understand love and try to put those puzzle pieces together.
So, what do you understand about love? And do you recognize when a girl has an obsessive love style towards you? Yep, that’s what we’re talking about today.
Some girls have an obsessive love style which is something that is important to recognize and fully understand.
I’m going to tell you what an obsessive love style is and what girls do when they have this obsessive love style. Now this is going to help you with any future relationships you find yourself in.
What is an obsessive love style?
What is an obsessive love style?
Have you ever found yourself infatuated with somebody?
Infatuation is similar to an obsessive love style. Girls are often more likely to have an obsessive love style than men are because they experience more emotions.
An obsessive love style can be superficial, and it often comes with a constant deluge of thoughts about the person they are interested in.
The girl is addicted to you and wants as much of you as she can get.
You might have only met for a few minutes before her obsessive love style develops. Let’s look into what a girl does when she has an obsessive love style.
You might notice that she starts to act jealous when you are talking to your friends, if you mention another girl or if you talk to another girl.
A girl does not have to be in a relationship to act jealous. She might have just met a guy, or she might like him even though they have never spoken.
When a girl is jealous, she will probably try and take up all your attention, or she might give you short and sharp answers instead of engaging in conversation.
You might just notice that she is acting a little cold and being distant. This is jealousy, and she is acting this way because she has an obsessive love style.
When a girl really focuses on one guy obsessively, she normally has low self-esteem. She is afraid of being abandoned and wants you to fully commit to her.
If you like her, make sure that you tell her that you are committed to only her and this should stop her from being so obsessive.
She uses emotional manipulation
When someone emotionally manipulates you, they manipulate you into doing things that meet their expectations and needs.
Normally in a relationship, you both try to meet each other’s expectations and needs, it is not one sided.
Often girls with an obsessive love style will resort to emotional manipulation out of a sense of desperation.
She checks up on you
She constantly checks all of your updates on social media, texts you, phones you and always wants to see you. She doesn’t even say very much when she messages you, but she does it constantly.
You may find she seems upset when you do not message her back quickly. She also asks you questions about your social media, especially other girls, and that’s how you know that she is stalking your social media.
If she is constantly checking up on you, it is probably because she is always thinking about you and obsessing over you.
She is excessive about togetherness
When you fall in love with someone, you want to spend all of your time with the other person.
It is important that you also are individuals though and spend time apart and with other people. If she wants you both to always be together and never spending time apart, it might be because she has an obsessive love style.
It’s ok if she wants to spend some time with you but start questioning it if she never wants to be a part.
She has a need for reassurance
She needs you to constantly reassure her that you are interested in her and still want to be in a relationship with her.
If she is obsessed with you then her entire world revolves around you, and she is worried that she might lose you.
She has no other interests
You are her only habit and only interest. She always seems to be free to see you and never mentions anything about other things she has been doing. It seems like she goes to work and sees you and that is all.
When you ask about her friends, she tries to change the subject. If you ask her about her interests and hobbies, she tells you that she is too busy for them.
This is a sign that you are her only interest and that she is obsessed with you.
She has mismatched values
She might be obsessing about you even though deep down she knows that it would never work because you have different values and interests to her.
You might start to notice that her values are different or that you don’t both align. This is a sign that she is obsessed with you, and she is willing to put her values aside to be involved with you.
She has obsessive thoughts
This one is difficult for you to spot because you do not know what she is thinking.
If she is obsessed with you though she will be thinking about you non-stop.
She will find herself wondering what you are eating, who you are seeing, and dissecting everything you have ever said to her. This is a sign that she has an obsessive love style.
She likes to protect
Is she very protective of you? This is actually not a bad thing unless it becomes controlling.
You might notice her helping you through a crowd or sticking up for you when other people say mean things about you.
This is a sign that she is obsessed with you and wants to keep you safe. When a girl does this, it shows that she really cares about you.
She is clingy
She never leaves you alone. Even when you are both out with a group of friends. She always stays by your side.
When you are not together, she is constantly messaging you.
This is called clingy behavior and shows that she is worried about losing you.
She is controlling
When protective behavior goes bad it turns into controlling behavior.
She tells you who you can and cannot see. She decides what you both do and when you do them. These are all classic signs of control and are something that should be brought up as soon as they are noticed.
If it carries on, then you might find it very difficult to get out of the relationship.
Controlling relationships often turn toxic, so it is better to put a stop to that type of behavior at the very beginning.
She gives you strange surprises
She knows things about you that you have never told her. When you are talking to each other she mentions something that leaves you thinking, did I tell her that?
This is a sign that she is obsessed with you and might be asking other people about you or stalking you on social media.
She accuses you of things
She constantly accuses you of dating other girls behind her back or flirting with people in front of her when you have not done any of those things.
She is paranoid that she is going to lose you and is trying to guilt you into staying with her by accusing you of things that you have never done.
She cannot focus
She does not notice anything other than the relationship you have with her.
If you are both on a date and you mention something that is happening in the world, she looks puzzled and wonders what you are talking about. She is spending all of her time obsessing over you instead of focusing on world events.
She is probably also unsure what is going on within her friend group or with her family as well because all her focus is on you.