Learn how to get out of the friend zone! In today’s video we’re going to be discussing some tips you can take advantage of if you want to escape the friendzone.
Being friend-zoned sucks, if you like a girl but she just wants to remain friends it can understandably feel painful for you. Today we’re going to look at some of the options you have available for getting out of the friend zone situation.
Having a crush or falling in love with someone can result in two different ways.
Either that person has the same feelings for you or you get put in the friend zone. And a quick fun fact did you know that the term friend zone was popularized by the American sitcom Friends.
From then on people have been labelling themselves as friend-zoned whenever the person of their interest decides to just be friends and not take the relationship any further, it stings huh.
Getting friend-zoned can just be as painful as being in an actual breakup, it can even be more painful because all you want to do is to get away from that person but you just can’t because they are still in that friendship that you want to keep. So you just get by every day trying your best to not get jealous when there’s another person hovering around them or when they tell you about another person they might be seeing.
At one point it probably crossed your mind for sure that there must be something that you could do to turn something around and make it work and this is where we come into the picture. So, I’m going to walk you through the simple steps to get out of her friend zone instantly.
How to get out of the friend zone
What is the friend zone?
If you are unsure what the friend zone is, count yourself lucky because you have probably never fully been in it. The friend zone is quite easy to understand but once you know what it is, you will want to avoid it.
It is when a girl or guy has feelings for someone. The person that they have feelings for however only likes them as a friend.
The good news is that the friend-zone is not game over. Take a look at the secrets girls want you to know that can help you escape the friend zone.
She wants you to tell her how you feel
Let’s start with the big guns. Telling a girl how you feel. Although you might feel you are being very obvious when showing off your feelings for her, she might be completely oblivious.
Sometimes girls put you in the friendzone because they simply don’t know how you feel.
They don’t want to put themselves out there only for you to knock them back if you don’t feel the same way. They would much rather play it safe.
Escape the friend zone by skipping this awkward stage and simply tell her how you feel.
You also need to show her how you feel
Actions are often just as strong as words are. Just like telling her how you feel, you also need to show her how you feel.
This would be with a romantic gesture like a bunch of flowers or just sticking by her when she needs you.
This means even if she is friend zoning you, not just giving up but waiting to see if time changes anything.
This can take a lot of patience but if you do make it out, it will all be worth it.
Try and get her to see you in a romantic way
This one can be very tricky, especially when she has seen you as friend.
You need to move away from friendship and into this new area so that she can see you as a potential romantic partner. I am sure you are thinking, well how do I do that?
The first step is to dial up your flirting. We tease our friends, but we don’t flirt with them. Flirting is something we exclusively do with people we like.
You don’t want to go over the top with your flirting because you need to remember that in her eyes you are still in friend territory.
Start flirting, every now and then though. Tease her like you would with any girl you were dating.
You also need to increase the touching without creeping her out. When she tells a joke, you could laugh and put your hand on her shoulder.
You could also tell her about something romantic you did for someone else in the past and that might allow her to think of you in a romantic way instead of just a friend way.
Figure out why you are in the friend-zone and try to change that part of yourself
I would never tell you to change who you are. We are all unique and special in our own ways. If you find yourself in the friend-zone though, it’s worth checking in with yourself.
Why do you think she only thinks of you as a friend?
Maybe she is normally attracted to muscly guys and you are very skinny. If you started going to the gym and lifting more weights, perhaps she would look at you in a different way.
Or it could be that she likes guys that are driven by their career. How could you work harder to get a promotion or start your own business?
These are all things you need to ask yourself so that you can move out of the friend zone.
She has most likely friend-zoned you because you are not her normal type of guy.
See if you can pick up a new habit like the gym that would make her see you in a different light.
Make physical contact with her when appropriate
It’s not always easy to know when to make physical contact when you are in the friend-zone.
Although in your eyes sparks may be flying, you need to remember that in her eyes, you are just a friend. So don’t go overboard with the touching. Instead keep it PC and occasionally touch her while you are both laughing or when you are protecting her while you are both crossing the road.
Don’t make it too obvious, a little touching will be enough to get her thinking.
She wants you to flirt with her
It’s true, a girl can often not tell that a guy likes her until he starts flirting with her.
Girls are very emotional and they are often more able to pick up emotions like this better than men are. When it comes to this though, you need to realise that girls are clueless.
They need you to spell it out for them otherwise they will put you straight in the friend basket.
So, you need to flirt with her a little.
Make it as subtle as possible and dial it up if she responds well. Try to incorporate touch in your flirting as well to help move things along.
As soon as you start flirting she will start realizing that you see her as more than a friend.
She wants to miss you
If a girl thinks a guy is being too clingy, she will friend-zone him. This is especially true when you are in the very early stages of dating.
She wants it to be exciting and she wants to miss you, so it is important that you give her space. Don’t message her every day, let her message you.
Stop arranging all the dates, let her invite you out.
Get on with living your own life and check in every now and again. You’ll soon find that she will be back in contact with you.
Give her regular compliments
The way to any girl’s heart is through compliments.
This is how girls gauge that you like them. You need to compliment her on her looks but also on her personality.
When a guy compliments a girl on her personality she realises that he is really interested in her because he is taking the time to understand her.
Make sure any compliments you pay her are genuine and don’t just say them for the fun of it. Girls can see through this.
She wants to be a little bit jealous
She could be friend-zoning you because she thinks of you as a friend. She could also be friend-zoning you because she wants you to make you a little bit jealous.
Girls want you to know that sometimes the secret to escaping the friend-zone is to act a little bit jealous.
She might tell you about other guys she is dating or check out a guy while she is with you. She is doing this on purpose because she wants you to act protective and show how much she means to you.
It’s a bit of a game but if you notice that she is telling you about other men, act a little jealous but not controlling. She will see straight away how much she means to you.