It’s never been easy to date or to start a relationship with someone. In today’s world though, it is even harder because it’s not just face to face communication anymore. It could be anything from phone calls to text messages that count as an exchange.
Sometimes people even go from texting each other to being in a relationship together. Although you don’t have to experience the feeling of saying something wrong in the moment, it is still nerve wracking.
You have to be able to read between the lines and guess how the other person is feeling. That is why it is important to recognise when a girl is flirting over text otherwise how will you know if she likes you?
In today’s video I am going to tell you how you can recognise if a girl is flirting with you over text so that you know when you can take things to the next level.
How girls flirt over text
She texts you first
Often guys are told that they should always be the ones to text a girl first. Sure, somebody has to make the first move, but it doesn’t necessarily need to be you.
If she is the one who texts you first then it shows you that she is interested in you, attracted to you, and probably wants to flirt with you.
After a few months you might start to notice that she is the one to always text you first. She might be worried that you will never text her if she is not the one to make the first move.
Why don’t you surprise her by texting her first. This shows her that you like her as much as she likes you which can be how flirting starts!
She sends you a lot of texts
I mean a lot of texts…they never seem to stop!
Sometimes this might be annoying or seem overly clingy.
Just remember that if she is sending this many texts to you, it is because she likes you.
If she is someone that you would like to flirt with then try to change the tone of the texts and see how she reacts.
She gives you updates on her life
She texts you about everything that is going on in her life. From a drama at work to something she bought for lunch…I mean everything! She wants you both to get to know each other a little better and she might want to impress you by telling you about her life.
You should take it as a compliment and share some updates about your own life.
This can help form a connection which can help her develop trust, something girls need if they are going to flirt with a guy.
She replies straight away
If you message her first or reply to one of her texts she replies instantly. Sometimes she will even tell you in advance when she is going to be busy because she doesn’t want you to think that she is ignoring you.
She makes a big effort with her replies
She is not sending a simple one word reply to you. She goes above and beyond when she responds to you.
When discussing anything she goes into great detail and she asks you a lot of questions. You can tell that she is putting a lot of effort into what she is replying which should show you how she feels about you.
She notices when you have not text her
When you have not text her, she messages to ask how you are. This means that she has noticed that you have not text her and wants to check in and make sure that you are ok.
Her ulterior motive here is to make sure that you are still interested in her.
Her messages are clearly flirty
There is no reading between the lines here. Her text messages show clearly that she is flirting with you. She might ask what you are wearing today or when the next time she can see you is.
If she does this, then she is making the first move which shows how strongly she feels about you.
She uses sexy emojis
You know the ones. The aubergine, the peach, and the water droplet emoji. Sexy flirty emojis show she is hitting on you and trying to take things up a notch.
She teases you
She makes fun of you but not in a mean way. When you tell her about the embarrassing things you have done, she laughs and tells you that you are such a dork!
Teasing is a sign of affection, and it shows that she likes you. It can also be sexual though which is what it will eventually turn into.
She laughs at funny things you say via text
You might not be there to witness this, but she is laughing at the funny things you say just from behind a screen.
Laughing is an important part of flirting. It helps release good endorphins which creates more excitement and a deeper connection.
Your conversations seem effortless
Texting can get boring quickly so if your conversations via text seem effortless then it is a great sign.
You both always seem to have something to talk about and never run out of conversation.
She manages to always keep you interested by bringing up different topics and asking you great questions.
She asks you personal questions
Speaking of questions! She asks you about yourself, how your day was, how you are feeling, about your past and about your family and your job.
This shows you she is interested in you and wants to get to know you better.
She tells you personal things about her life
She doesn’t just ask you questions, she also tells you about her life. Revealing things about her childhood and tells you all her hopes and dreams for the future.
When you are texting someone and you only have conversation to rely on, you can get to know someone a lot better than you would face to face. Which makes it easy for you both to instantly connect when you meet in person.
She sends you sexy lines from her favorite songs and tv shows
Girls will often send guys their favorite songs and TV shows. It is not random the ones they send.
It is up to you to read between the lines and try to figure out the deeper meaning.
She asks you about your personal life and plans for the future
She wants to know if you see her in your future. So, she will ask about it, but in a more casual way, she might say something like “where do you want to live in the future.”
She will also ask you about your personal life because she wants to know if you are seeing anyone else.
She compliments you
She compliments you a lot. She mentions how great you are to talk to or how interesting she finds you.
These compliments should make you feel good about yourself, and she means them if she is sending them to you.
She asks you about other girls
She doesn’t get straight to the point, and she skirts around the subject, but she asks you if you are dating any other girls.
She has probably stalked you on social media and might have seen pictures of you and a girl. She will be wondering if it is your sister, friend, or something more.
Girls are more suspicious of guys over text because they have not yet developed trust. This will come when you meet face to face.
She sends you photos of herself
She sends you selfies. She might disguise it as trying to get an opinion on her outfit or checking out her new hair.
Basically, she wants you to see pictures of her and she will be wondering if you find her attractive.
She wants to facetime you
She wants to talk to you and see you. This is when she will ask to facetime you.
Things can get pretty hot and steamy over facetime, and she will be excited to make it a regular thing.
She starts using your writing style
This is called mirroring and it often happens when we are flirting with someone in person. We copy their behavior and the way they speak.
When we are texting somebody the same thing can happen but instead you copy their writing style. For example, she might write every word out, but you write in short abbreviations. She might start using these abbreviations to mirror your behavior.
She tells you how she feels via text
She admits to how she feels about you. Suddenly everything clicks and you realize that she has been putting in all this effort and time flirting because she likes you!
She asks you out
After admitting how she feels about you she asks you out on a date.
You will both finally be able to get to know each other in person which could be the start of a wonderful relationship.