Are you looking for ways to appear more confident when you speak to a woman?
Do you want to come across as confident and high-value. A man who knows exactly what he wants and how to get it?
There are many different ways that you can boost your confidence, both before and during a conversation with a lovely lady. And we are here to tell you exactly how to do that.
Come on, You’ve got this
Fake it
The first thing you should think about before approaching a woman, before speaking to a woman, and when you are talking to a woman is your confidence levels.
Now we know it’s not easy to be confident. Especially if confidence within yourself is something that is hard for you to muster up.
So, the easiest thing that you can do is fake it until you make it. If you pretend that you are confident, then you can trick your brain into believing that you are confident.
Women love a confident man and can tell a mile off if you are confident, if you are cocky, or if you are insecure.
If you could master the art of “faking it until you make it,” then you would have nothing to worry about when it comes to touching a woman’s attention.
Smell good
If you struggle with your confidence around women, one of the easiest ways to boost it is by receiving compliments from them.
Of course, we can’t force them to give you a compliment, but I can promise that if you wear a good-smelling cologne or aftershave, the compliments will roll off the tongue so easily.
Women adore men who smell good. Not only does it show that you look after yourself from a hygienic point of view, but the choice of cologne you have can make you appear more attractive to a woman.
Your aftershave does not have to be expensive; it just has to be a nice scent that you like and will wear all the time.
It will essentially be your natural scent when women think about you.
Dress for your body
We know it can be incredibly difficult to find your own sense of style when it comes to clothes. Especially since social media plays such a huge role in people’s opinions nowadays.
If you’re looking for a way to boost your confidence, then the only rule I would ask you to live by when it comes to clothes and fashion is to dress for your body.
Don’t dress like a guy you’ve seen on Instagram or like that one celebrity who has all the girls fawning over him. They’re not you. And you will feel so uncomfortable impersonating someone else, dressing for someone else, and pretending to be someone else.
Women will pick up on that, and it will make them feel awkward to feel your awkwardness too. Wear clothes that make you feel comfortable and confident in your own body, and your confidence will radiate through.
Posture
“Walk into the room as if you belong there” is a very popular phrase that a lot of people don’t really pay too much attention to, so let me break it down for you.
If you feel insecure or as if you don’t belong in a room, this will show through your confidence levels and your body language. And everyone else around you will be able to see it too.
If you want to appear confident to women. Walk into a room with your head held high and your shoulders back on your chest, as if you belong in the room.
It’s another version of fake it until you make it, but your posture is essential for wanting to appear confident.
People want to approach you if you have a good posture and engage in a conversation with them.
Eye contact
When you are engaging in a conversation with a woman, it is vital that you maintain eye contact with her throughout the conversation.
Not only does it show that you are confident in what you are talking about, but it also lets her know that she has your undivided attention and that you are intently listening to what she has to say.
Eye contact doesn’t mean staring at her in a creepy way.
By eye contact, we mean that when she is talking, look at her and make eye contact for a few seconds before reverting your eyes to her forehead or her lips and then back to her eyes.
Do not pick your phone up or look around the room when she is talking, because you will give her the impression that you are bored. I don’t want to talk to you.
Ask her name
One of the easiest tricks in the book is this one.
You are no longer strangers once you are familiar with her name. You can read her body language and start the conversation by addressing her by name.
But if you really want to make a statement and stand out, say her name back to her. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language, as Dale Carnegie famously advised in his book How to Win Friends and Influence People.
After she says her name, repeat it and, if you like, add a brief compliment or cultural allusion.
Smile
If you’re focusing too much on trying to appear confident, listening to what she is saying, and thinking about your posture, you may forget to smile.
Although smiling should come naturally if you are in a conversation with a woman that you like, you may have to remind yourself to relax, enjoy the conversation, and smile.
Sometimes we can focus so much on things inside our heads that we don’t pay attention to the present moment.
When you smile, you create a sense of friendliness toward women.
You will appear approachable, which will mean more women will feel comfortable enough to approach you, which in turn will boost your confidence as more women come up to you. So it goes hand in hand.
Self-talk
Higher self-esteem is strongly correlated with positive internal dialogue. Just before you approach a girl, tell yourself some encouraging things in your head, such as “I can do this,” “I am charming and interesting,” or “I’m different and interesting to talk to.”
Positive self-talk can help boost your confidence and reduce anxiety, making it easier to approach and connect with others.
Remember to be kind and gentle with yourself and focus on your strengths rather than your perceived weaknesses.
Her body language
You might be doomed to rejection from the start if you don’t know how to read a woman’s nonverbal cues.
Women tend to be much more obvious with their body language than they are with their words, despite the fact that they don’t always speak clearly (ah, the dreaded mixed signals).
Therefore, it is important to pay attention to their body language, such as eye contact, facial expressions, and gestures, in order to understand their true feelings and intentions.
Additionally, practicing active listening skills can also help in understanding what a woman is trying to communicate nonverbally.
Compliment her
It’s one of the simplest ways to strike up a conversation to compliment a woman. You’re letting her know that you think she’s special and that you’ve found something you like about her.
However, genuine flattery only occurs when you seek out compliments that are more original than the clichéd “you are so pretty” or “I like your hair.”
Try a compliment that has a little more substance if you want to make an impression; just make sure it’s sincere and applicable to her.
For instance, you can compliment her on her sense of humor, intelligence, or unique style.
Remember to be specific and avoid making comments that objectify or sexualize her.
A well-thought-out compliment can go a long way toward building a connection and making her feel appreciated.
Gentleman
In the past, it was customary for men to open doors, assist women in carrying objects, or offer their jackets to a lady who was cold. However, in today’s society, these modest actions can distinguish you.
Things like opening the door for her, offering to buy her a drink (if you’re at a bar or a restaurant), moving her chair for her to sit down if you’re at a place to eat, picking something up that she has dropped.
These small gestures are ingrained in a woman’s brain to help her distinguish a man from a gentleman.
Conversation starters
So you approached the woman after studying her body language, and you asked her name. What’s next?
Use an intriguing conversation starter instead of the dull opening questions like “where are you from” or “what do you do?” to get the conversation going. Something simple yet broad like “tell me about yourself” gives her the opportunity to talk as little or as much as she feels comfortable about.
It’s important to wait 2 to 3 seconds after she has stopped talking to see if she is finished or just taking a pause.
We don’t want to interrupt each other when we’re conversing; it could get messy!
Your body language
A key indicator of confidence, poise, and dominance is an expansive body language signal.
According to psychological research, women are more drawn to men who appear more open and expansive.
Therefore, women are more likely to find you romantically attractive if your body language conveys that you are “open” and specific rather than concealing something or seeming insecure.
Expansive body language signals include taking up space, standing tall, and making eye contact. These nonverbal cues can convey confidence and dominance, which are attractive qualities to many people.
It is important to note that while expansive body language can be attractive, it is also important to respect personal boundaries and not come across as aggressive or overbearing.
Additionally, it is important to remember that attraction is subjective, and not all individuals will be drawn to the same body language cues.
Small details
Men frequently comment on a woman’s body, smile, and hair. But what about the finer points?
Every item a woman carries or wears represents who she is.
When you notice a minor detail and inquire about it, you can easily move the conversation into more substantial subjects, such as: How have you found that book so far, if she has one nearby? What inspired your tattoo if you have one? How did you obtain it?