Today we’re going to be discussing 16 things women actually want in a relationship. Figuring out what anyone wants in a relationship can be particularly tricky. We all have different things that are important to us, that make us feel loved and cared for.
In this video we highlighted some of the most important things women said mattered to them when it comes to dating and relationships.
The full transcript of this video is available below.
What Do Women Want In A Relationship?
There have been countless films, poems, songs books all written about what women want in a relationship. It’s a high demand subject because it seems pretty hard to figure out.
But really it’s as simple as being observant and giving her what she needs to feel in a specific moment of time. So without further ado let’s dive in my name is anna and welcome to the channel.
To feel valued and to feel loved
No matter if this is at the start of a relationship or 30 years down the line, this has to always be maintained for her to want to stay with you.
So you have to be affectionate and pay attention to those small details, if you know she drinks soya milk in her tea and no matter where you go together the cafes and restaurants tell her that they never have soya milk then surprise her with a carton of soy milk in your car is enough to make her feel valued.
To have your direct attention
Not all the time, just in the moments when she needs that connection. So if she’s talking to you please stop scrolling on your phone and pay attention.
Be able to communicate maturely
Communication is so big for a woman to have in a relationship, and in times of conflict and stress she wants to be able to talk and work out how to resolve something.
She doesn’t want to just date someone that refuses to open up and just storms out when there’s an argument.
Be a great listener
A woman feels loved when she feels seen, heard and listened to. This makes her world, you have to be present when she talks to you even if you don’t want to hear for the fifth time how Becky in the office has hogged the printer.
You still need to show up and just listen, and a great tip is to remember things from previous conversations and bring them up in future ones. Bye, Darren I’m going out for drinks with Becky we’re back around 10 pm, wait was Becky the one that you fell out with over the printing issue two weeks ago?
To respect other women
Better known as misogynism. A lady wants you to respect other women, your mom, your female boss, and of course your ex-girlfriends. She wants to feel like you are both equals, both capable with no restrictions.
To understand her consent
A lot of guys sadly assume that they are allowed to get their sexual needs met whenever they want in a relationship, and it’s not an all-you-can-eat buffet.
Relationships still involve calling up the restaurant and making reservations, turning up with no prior warning and still demanding to get served will leave you a bad review.
Support and encouragement to achieve her goals
Society even today makes women feel like they have to suppress their own needs to serve their husbands and kids.
So she would love for you to encourage her to start that passion project again to change career goals and just to support her through her choices.
To be admired
Respect and recognize all the great things that she does for you and other people. If she is an amazing cook then tell her. If she’s smashing her career goals, tell her how proud you are of her.
But most importantly she wants you to appreciate what she brings to your life and to show her what she means to you.
To be seen
If a woman doesn’t feel appreciated for the things that she does it will upset her. But what will turn her off completely and consider a breakup is to not feel seen.
She wants you to hear her when she’s sad, she’s not asking you to fix her, but to acknowledge she’s upset. If you don’t notice when she is emotionally hurt she starts to worry how long it will actually take until you do notice.
She begins to feel lonely and question why she’s even in a relationship with you.
To be best friends
She doesn’t just want to date you. She wants to grow with you, share goals and be there for you and support you. She wants to be able to talk with you like she would a best friend and feel like you’ve got her back and you’re always there for her.
A woman doesn’t want to spend a lifetime with a man saying “oh okay well good for you I’ll go get a towel” so put the work in to find out what she enjoys.
Emotional intimacy with others
A lady doesn’t want you to only ever come to her with your emotional issues. She wants to be able to nurture you and help you grow without taking on the therapist or the mother role.
And a woman wants a man who is able to handle his own emotional needs too.
A quick hack of romance is to just give your lady something that is of her love language. You could buy her flowers, but if she isn’t a gift type of person she won’t truly feel loved.
So check out a book in our description of this video, it’s called the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman and it will help you to identify how your partner wants to be loved and will give you so many ideas to keep your romantic appearances up in the relationship.
Romance is affection and makes a girl feel appreciated and comfortable and appreciation is something women constantly seek and notice quickly when you stop it.
To have space
Probably a surprise for you because society makes out that women are naturally needy.
When in fact they aren’t, they appreciate their space just like you and their alone time and they want a partner who isn’t needy and has their own individual outside time of the relationship.
Be open to being wrong
No one likes to argue, and confrontation makes anyone want the ground below to open up and swallow them whole.
In relationships, women want to date someone who is humbled and able to admit when their behavior was not so good, instead of acting defensive. Now, this will build trust and shows her that you are able to take full responsibility for your own actions.
To feel safe
Women want to feel like they are understood and that you have their backs. Now the world is toxic for males but more so for females.
We are told we need to be slim in one place and curvy in the other, we need to always look to groom and insta perfect and we lose value as soon as we reach a certain age.
So we want to date people that appreciate us for who we are, someone that makes us feel safe and comfortable to be around. And a woman wants you to be there for her, not to judge her and just to be able to handle whatever life throws at you both.