The art of seduction is something that we as humans take seriously, a lot more serious than any other species. With help from Hollywood, seducing a partner is a skill we have mastered over the years.
Those big grand gestures, picture-perfect first dates that end with a sweet kiss and a lingering feeling, the top 5-star weddings with the perfect first dance. It’s ridiculously hard not to notice the lengths people will go to when it comes to romance and seduction.
Living by stereotypes, it is always the man who is responsible for romancing the ladies and living up to the standards that the movies and fairy-tale books have created. But nowadays, women are tired of waiting for them to make a move and have taken things into their own hands.
The ladies are stepping up and stepping out, grabbing those red roses, and wooing their partners from left and right, not a dry eye or cold heart in sight!
One of the things women have decided to take control over is the desire to turn on her man in her way, rather than waiting for him to initiate the first move.
It’s common knowledge that it takes very little to turn a man on, it’s almost too easy. The slightest touch or even a little blow on the ear can get him geared up to go. So, when the ladies take control, it doesn’t take a lot of effort to rile him up.
But for those who are a little confused about if a woman is trying to seduce you – although I do think you would know for sure – we have narrowed it down to these few vital tips, just so you can be sure that she’s trying to tickle your pickle.
Signs She Is Trying To Turn You On
Skin
The way a woman dresses can look simple and quick from the outside, but on the inside, she has taken her time to prepare her outfit right down to what accessories she is going to wear. Even if she’s just wearing yoga pants and a messy bun. Trust me, it’s been planned out!
When a woman is trying to turn you on, she may start to show a little skin here and there. Not enough that she might catch a cold, but just enough to let your eyes see and your mind wander.
It could be a lower cut top that shows off her girls a little more than usual, or it could be a cute crop top that shows off her tummy and her curves.
Of course, this is subject to the weather, I don’t think a woman would want to catch the flu trying to seduce you by wearing fewer clothes in the rain!
But the intention of showing you a little preview of what’s underneath is very sneaky and sexy of her, and she wants you to know that she knows you’re noticing it too.
Lingerie
Regardless of how you got to the point that you are undressing your partner, if she reveals that she’s wearing lingerie – especially a matching set, maybe a bit of lace, your favourite colour – it was her intention for you to get to this point. This was a part of her plan, and she’s winning!
Don’t get me wrong, some women wear lingerie for their partner because they know it’s what they like to see her in.
But for some women, there is nothing that makes her feel more confident in herself than wearing a fresh new set of matching underwear under her clothes and knowing she looks as good as she feels. You loving what she is wearing and it driving you crazy is a bonus for her!
So just ask yourself “is this little red number for me?”…
Eyes
Eye contact is important whenever you’re communicating with anybody. It shows that you’re in the conversation and your undivided attention is given.
They do say the eyes are the window to the soul, and in this particular situation, it is no different.
The ladies know that holding eye contact with you can be as equally sexy as it is slightly intimidating.
Some women love that, they love to stand toe to toe with a guy and match his masculine energy – and some guys love it too, sometimes they don’t know it until it’s happening!
With that in mind, if a woman is constantly glancing over at you from across the room, she is trying to get your attention. And once she has it, maintaining that eye contact can be very hypnotising for you.
Is she fluttering her eyelashes at you? She is flirting with you without using words.
Whilst performing certain activities a woman may hold eye contact with you. She is doing so because she knows it is a huge turn-on for guys and can drive you crazy! She knows what she’s doing. Trust me!
Close up
Although it can be a little intimidating for a woman to initiate certain things when starting a relationship, one way that can be subtle and less nerving is by slowly closing the space between the two of you in small movements.
Did you start the beginning of your conversation on opposite ends of the sofa? Have you noticed she’s moved closer to you whilst nodding her head and conversing?
She’s trying to enter your personal space without overstepping boundaries so she can be near you, within touching distance. Having consent will always be at the back of her mind, and the only way she can think of being able to be in touching distance without coming out and asking you is by subtly moving closer!
Body language is vital when it comes to this type of thing. Always try to take notice of how she is sitting when you’re in a conversation, or how her body leans when you’re walking. It may sound silly, but it can speak volumes.
Knees: when a person is engaged in meaningful conversation and feels comfortable, their knees will point towards whomever they’re speaking to.
Arms: Arms crossed over the chest are a clear sign that the person feels closed off and sometimes annoyed. It is subconsciously as though they’re covering their heart to protect it from any danger the body may feel.
Shoulders: When walking beside you, if a woman feels comfortable and happy, the shoulder closest to you will lean towards you, as if she is waiting for a hug or for you to put your arm around her. It is an inviting gesture made subconsciously.
If there is a spark between you? Minimising the distance between you so you’re within touching distance will allow her to brush her hand against yours and feel that spark for herself.
It becomes more real for her at this point – the connection is physical not just in her head.
Confidence
Confidence is most definitely key when it comes to dating and trying to seduce a guy, and unfortunately, not every woman is handed this key.
Being confident in yourself is something that comes with time and understanding yourself – a self-love journey one might say.
However, we’ve all been told that faking it until you make it helps when it comes to confidence. If you’re not feeling confident just pretend you’re the most confident (not cocky) person in the room. Eventually, you will start to feel yourself become more confident.
Women know that men love to see a confident woman. It is something they prioritise when it comes to trying to turn men on.
A woman who knows exactly what she wants and isn’t afraid to take the steps needed to get it is a woman that comes across as sexy and in control.
Conclusion
I think we might need a minute or two for you to gather your thoughts and lower your blood pressure…
The ladies use the art of seduction very well, as I suspect you have imagined throughout.
These methods have been tested and tried over the centuries. There have been no complaints from those men who have been lucky enough to have a lady take charge and initiate the rendezvous.
Sometimes the shy act is exactly that, an act used to draw you in and then she unleashes her inner naughty girl.
Once a woman is comfortable around you, she will start to lower her guard when it comes to different aspects, and one of them will for sure be her sexual desires and things she may want to venture into and explore with you.
Hold on tight guys, it could be a real crazy ride!