The art of seduction is something that we as humans have studied and tried for as long as we can remember. With each individual person comes an individual set of needs and wants that will work for one but may not work for another.
However, there are certain hacks that can be used universally and tweaked to your individual needs. What are these you may ask? Well we are going to share these with you so that you can put them to the test.
Seduction Hacks High Value People Use
Eye contact
Making eye contact with anyone for more than three seconds is a very good way to establish if they are comfortable with you, if they want to be in close proximity with you, and if they want to proceed with the thoughts inside your head.
It’s very well known that people only make eye contact with people they feel extremely comfortable with, because it is so intense and almost vulnerable.
One of the best ways to seduce someone is to make eye contact with them; either in short spurts, three seconds and then look away and then after a minute another three seconds and look away, almost as if you are teasing them. Or by staring intently at them, which is more likely to get their blood pumping and the heart racing.
As a bonus tip: making eye contact when you are performing certain acts for either person is an extremely good way to seduce them even further.
There’s something about having eye contact during this time that just tips people over the edge and drives them crazy in a good way.
The effort of appearance
One of the most common ways we know to seduce someone is to slip into something a little more sexy, or slip out of clothes depending on who you’re trying to seduce.
For women, the go to sexy outfit is normally a lovely little, red lace two piece of lingerie. If you’re on a date with a woman and then afterwards you notice she’s wearing matching underwear or lingerie in general, just know it was her idea from the start for your date to get to this sexy point.
She has prepared herself in any way she can, to look and feel confident and sexy. Women also do their makeup, their hair, and nails when they’re looking after their appearance to feel sexy and seductive.
A lot of women’s clothing are made specifically to expose parts of their bodies and create the sexy look that they’re looking for. For example, low cut tops to expose the breasts and short skirts to expose the legs. Women will tailor their looks with clothing to look and feel as sexy or conservative as they like.
For men, their idea of looking and feeling sexy with their appearance would be to remove their shirt to expose their torso – of course not in public, when you’re alone with someone you have feelings for. As women are more likely to be visual, seeing the exposed skin could allow their imagination to run wild about what could happen.
Men also love to wear a nice suit or sweater when they’re trying to impress someone as it looks very handsome and sexy to a LOT of women. A suit has always been associated with a hard-working, handsome man who works really hard and needs a way to de-stress.
Personal space
Everyone has their own boundaries when it comes to personal space, but in general imagine your personal space as a force-field around your body. The seduction hack is to slowly decrease the personal space between you and the person you are wanting to seduce.
You start by getting close for a couple of seconds then leave that area and repeating, then add slow touching such as touching them lightly on the arm to get their attention when asking a question. By doing this slowly, you can gauge their reaction and if they are comfortable with you.
However, on the other hand if you are both in the mood and you are slowly decreasing the space between the two of you, it can come across as if you are teasing them by going so slow, which in itself is a form of seduction. It’s a very good way to get the blood pumping and the thoughts running.
The anticipation of waiting until you are close enough to touch each other would be enough to drive the both of you crazy before you even move onto the next step.
Using humor
Make me laugh
This one may surprise you a little, because we don’t really associate making someone laugh with seduction. But it has been recorded that at least 76% of people are more attracted to someone if they can make them laugh.
Humor is one of, if not the most important personality traits that someone can have. Having the ability to make someone laugh means that you have the ability to improve their mood and change their outlook on the day they are having with just a small gesture.
Someone could be having the worst day of their life and you could make them laugh, instantly making them feel more relaxed and a little less stressed.
For a lot of women, a man who can make them laugh is extremely sexy because they associate laughing with happy hormones, and we all know women are a lot more emotionally invested in the sexual side of a relationship than the average man.
The emotional connection you have with your partner is a lot more important to them than just having sex. So next time you’re out and about, check and see if you’re the comedian of the group. Are you making everyone laugh?
Words
Dirty talk
A trick as old as time. Dirty talk. Now, there are many different ways that you can go about this as there are many different avenues that you could go down. Everyone has their own preferences and wants and needs, therefore, there are many different types of dirty talk that you can explore and trial.
Some people like to be praised – good girl, good boy, you’re doing so well, just like that, etc…
Some people like to be a little bit more extreme. It’s all about finding what people want to get from it and what you’re comfortable putting in.
This is something that you can explore with your partner as you start to feel more comfortable with them but it is a very good way of seducing someone.
A lot of people that read erotic novels find that dirty talk puts them in the mood a lot more than any form of foreplay or stimulation. Look out for the bookworms, the quiet ones.
Technology
Sexting…
With the rise in technology, it should come as no surprise that seduction now comes in forms of technology too. You could sext someone, which is the virtual equivalent of dirty talk, almost as if you are writing erotic novel about the person you’re speaking to.
You could send some suggestive selfies to each other. And I’m sure that there are some apps out there that you can download to play some suggested games between the two of you to get you in the mood. You’d be surprised how advanced technology has become in all aspects, including the art of seduction.
It’s very important to note that no one is born with the ability to seduce whoever they want to. A lot of the time people will try things out as they start to feel more confident and then find what works for them, and what works for whoever it is that they are trying to seduce.
Sometimes what you are really good at may not be what the person you are trying to seduce is into. So I would say that communication is very important in situations like this. Don’t stress yourself out thinking that you miss the seduction gene, it’s all about trial and error and practice.
Hopefully, now that you know some of these seduction hacks, it will fill you with a little bit of confidence to take that leap and try something new. You might be surprised by the results, as well as your partner if it’s something you’ve never done before.