Eye contact, it’s immensely powerful. You see it in almost every romantic movie, the moment when a girl looks over at a guy for the first time and then you fast forwards to the end of the movie and they are living happily ever after.
And it all started with that one look! This does not just happen in movies, you can tell so much about a person just by looking at them. So when a girl looks at you it’s important that you know what to do.
You only get one chance to make a good first impression. In today’s video I’m going to be telling you what to do when a girl looks at you. So that when you are out in a bar and a girl flashes you that smile you can make a killer impression which will lead to your very own happily ever after.
What To Do When A Girl Looks At You
Start by winning the eye contact game
Did you realize that eye contact is a game?
Eye contact is such a powerful tool when it comes to truly connecting with someone and when it comes to dating, yes it is a game. There will be a winner and a loser, which one would you like to be?
Unfortunately, most guys lose this game so let me tell you how you can win.
When a girl does look at you, acknowledge her. Look back at her and make direct eye contact, hold your gaze but only for a few seconds. Then smile and look away.
That’s all it takes to win because you have left her intrigued. She is thinking, “he looked at me and he has a nice smile.”
She wants to know more about you and that means that you have got her exactly where you want her.
Don’t look away when your eyes meet
This is something you should not do! When she looks at you and your eyes meet, don’t automatically look away.
Sometimes it can be an impulse because you are nervous, but the truth is if you do this, she will think you are not interested straight away.
There is not really a way to come back from this because once it is done, it’s done. That is your first impression.
Obviously, you don’t want this so remember to always make eye contact back and don’t look away when she flashes a look your way.
Smiling makes you seem confident, friendly, and approachable. So, when a lady first looks at you and you want her to approach you, smiling makes sense.
Everyone can smile and it helps show off your best features.
Smile when she first looks at you and then as she walks up to you, or you walk up to her.
Try to also smile while you are talking so that she knows you are enjoying talking to her and are interested in what she is talking about.
Try to stay calm
It’s always really nerve racking at the beginning. You might be really nervous when you have to make eye contact and then it only gets worse when you actually have to talk to her.
Nerves are understandable, however you don’t want to look nervous when she first looks at you. It will come across as though you are shy when she wants a guy who is confident.
So, take a few breaths while you are looking at her to keep yourself calm and then when you go to talk to her, try to stay calm so that you can present yourself as a confident person.
Even if deep down inside you are anything but it pays to try and hide this while you are making a first impression.
Talk to the person next to you
After you have won the eye contact competition, you need to play it cool. I have already told you about staying calm but calm and cool are different things.
Being calm allows you to look more confident and not shy whereas being cool makes you very interesting in a girl’s mind.
That is where talking to the person next to you comes in. You have just broken your eye contact with her and smiled.
Now as you turn around just resume your conversation with the person next to you. It will make you look very smooth and a little mysterious.
She will see you do this because you are the person that broke eye contact so she will still be looking at you. This whole thing takes about 5 seconds in total, but it is really effective.
Display open body language
Body language really shows someone how you feel about them and how you feel about yourself.
It’s important that you are displaying the correct type of body language when a girl looks at you.
You don’t want to be displaying closed body language. This would make you look nervous, shy, and unapproachable.
When you are displaying this type of body language you might have your head down, arms crossed, legs closed and shoulders down. Obviously, this is not a great way to make a first impression.
You want to instead be displaying open body language which will make you appear confident. This means looking up, having a nice straight neck, shoulders down, chest puffed out and arms uncrossed.
When you look like this, you will look a lot more approachable which is what you want because after the initial look, you want her to come over to you and strike up a conversation.
Whether you are the one to walk over to her or she is the one who walks over to you it doesn’t really matter. What does matter is that you don’t forget to say hello! Make sure to say hi when you first meet and introduce yourself.
Try to make eye contact while you do this and don’t forget your open body language so that you look confident when you are speaking to her.
Then actually talk to her
You have said hi now you need to actually talk to her.
It might help to think of some topics in case something like this happens while you are out.
The topics could include asking her about her job, asking her about what she would like to do in the future, any goals she has and something she has watched lately that she loves. Those topics should help the conversation flow and get it started.
It’s important that you have plenty of conversation up your sleeve because you want her to be interested in everything you have to say.
You also want her to think you are confident and this helps. It also gives you both a chance to see if you like each other.
Ask her if she would like to see you again
You have nailed eye contact, the first look and you have dazzled her with your smile. Your first conversation also went well, and you think you like her.
She seems to be making eye contact back at you and smiling every time you talk which makes you confident that she likes you back.
Everything is going well, and you know that you want to see her again. Now is the time to ask her if you can see her again.
You could ask if she would be interested in grabbing coffee or a drink? Try not to use the word date and keep it as casual as possible.
If she has been giving off good signs then she will probably say yes which is what you want! Then you can exchange numbers and arrange to see each other again.
After that, well anything can happen. Just like in the romantic comedies this could be your soulmate and all of this has come from one single look, so who knows what might happen?